The Chronicles of Broken Boundaries and Accountability
I never believed that time could fix things. Ignoring a problem doesn’t make it go away—it just gives it room to grow. And trust? Once it’s cracked, it doesn’t heal on its own.
A mistake was made over ten years ago. It wasn’t talked about, wasn’t worked through—just left there, like a crack in the foundation that no one wanted to deal with. And for a long time, it didn’t seem like a big deal. But cracks don’t just stay the same size. They grow. And eventually, they break things apart.
Lately, I’ve found myself questioning a friendship that feels too close for comfort. The constant messages, the personal updates, the way they turn to each other for support—it’s not just friendship. At least, not the kind that feels entirely honest. The worst part? One of them is hiding the history they share. If there’s nothing wrong, why keep it a secret?
I tried to talk about it, but the reaction I got wasn’t understanding—it was defensiveness. “That was so long ago.” “This is just normal friend stuff.” Maybe for them, this is a non-issue. But for me, it’s not about how much time has passed. It’s about the fact that their choices back then, and now, still have an impact. Dismissing that doesn’t make it go away. It just makes it harder to trust.
I’ve realized that accountability isn’t about finding the right words to brush something off. It’s about acknowledging the harm done and actually making changes. If you’re really sorry, you don’t just say it—you show it. You set boundaries. You make different choices. You prove, through actions, that you care.
So where do I go from here?
I’ve decided that honesty is non-negotiable. If something needs to be hidden, it probably shouldn’t be happening. If someone truly regrets their actions, they’ll prove it, not just talk around it. And if trust has been broken, it can only be rebuilt through honesty, not excuses.
This isn’t just about the past. It’s about the present—and what kind of future I want to build. Because trust, once fractured, doesn’t just magically repair itself. It takes effort. And I’m done pretending that ignoring the cracks will somehow make them disappear.